Listen if this sounds like some woo-woo hippie bullshit topic that’s because it kind of is. But hear me out before you click away.
You see it’s human nature to be lazy. To take the easy route. The one with the least pain.
But – big but – the thing about laziness and taking the path of least resistance is the reward is an incredibly short-term solution and painful in the long run.
It might be human nature to be lazy but we find happiness and fulfillment when we are stretched. When we make an effort towards change and growth. Both physically and mentally either as one, the other or both
There are lots of ways to be stretched. And it’s uncomfortable. It just straight up sucks. It can be by stretching a tight set of muscles, by learning a new set of skills, adapting to a new routine, or changing an old set of beliefs.
And when we bypass the discomfort we end up staying small, tight, cramped, and limited.
By avoiding the new, temporary discomfort of stretching we end up staying stuck in our old uncomfortable patterns for much longer. Some people stay there their entire lives.
It’s like insisting we still fit into the jeans we wore in high school. There are zero benefits in doing so.
This is exactly why knowing the Why behind your goals is so critical. Your motive for achieving end goal – the feeling and person you will be when you get there – is the prize for moving through the discomfort of trying something new. Of striving for something more.
Somedays you just won’t want to try. You won’t have the energy. And that’s fine. It’s important to give yourself space for these days. But you also can’t have these days every day.
There needs to come to a point where you begin to put in the effort to find a new sense of ease in your life. Even if it’s just by an inch.
The beautiful thing about doing the work is that it always adds up over time. No matter how small the steps. But if you don’t take the steps there will be nothing to add up.
This is why in the Sticky Habits workbook we set three variations of effort for each habit we want to create. We set a high, medium and low effort variation.
Because while some days you won’t have much energy at all there will be others where you’ll have plenty to take you that extra “mile”.
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Personally, I’ve been avoiding exercise that demands any amount of effort from my muscles. I’ve been choosing the yoga videos that focus on stretching, unwinding and “melting”. For me, this is an easy kind of effort. But I know from past experience, I’ll feel much better if I also choose routines that include strengthening moves.
So my variations will look like this:
- My low effort variation is yoga routines with warrior poses and active vinyasas.
- My medium effort is practicing tennis with my boyfriend.
- My high effort will be working through Cassey Ho’s beginner Blogilates calendar. (She just released a new version and I’m pretty excited about it!)
Where in your life have you been staying small to avoid the effort? What small action can you take each day that will steadily move you forward?